Losing a family member to cancer is just about as hard as it gets. I don’t necessarily mean the cancer, but just having someone you love here one day and gone the next. When my father passed away, it was a huge blow to our family even though we had been preparing for it because of his cancer prognosis. The good thing is that we got to spend a lot of time with him before he died. When he was talking to me, he asked me to look at Jewish bronze plaques in NJ because he definitely wanted one at his grave.
He is extremely traditional, so I knew that this is what he would have wanted anyway. When I found the website for a local company that could create a bronze plaque for his grave, I showed it to him. Some might think that this is creepy, for a living man to plan his own burial site with his eldest son, but we were both realistic, knowing that this was going to happen sooner rather than later. I was really happy that he was able to design the plaque himself, because that helped to give him peace about what was coming as well.
The plaque that he arranged to have made is really beautiful and extremely honorable. While he could have went with granite because there are just more options and colors there, he insisted on sticking with the traditional bronze. He created a beautiful plaque for the company to make for him, and that gives all of us peace too when we go to visit his final resting place. Seeing the last creation he was a part of is just a beautiful thing to see, and it is like we still have a part of him here with all of us.